Tell us a little about yourself?
Well, I recently turned 44! Yay! I’m the mother of three young men (ages 24, 13, & 11). I also have a step-daughter who recently turned 21. I was born in Puerto Rico, raised in New Jersey, and I currently reside in Florida with my husband of almost 17 years and our two youngest children. I work for a Fortune 500 global technology company. I am currently pursuing my Master of Science in Psychology degree with a concentration in Behavioral Health. I am also a hair blogger.
What excites you most about Motherhood?
Watching my children grow up and develop their own personalities while seeing a little bit of myself in them really brings me joy. They each have such unique personalities. I love looking back at old photos and videos of them. It helps me cherish every moment we spend together.
What is the one most important things you hope to teach your kids?
I hope to teach my children to be true to themselves and never settle. Fear held me back on many occasions when I was growing up. I didn’t take too many chances or speak up out of fear and as a result, I feel like I missed out on many opportunities. I don’t want them to be afraid. I want my children to be fearless and follow their dreams.
What are some of your favorite things? Think Oprah lol
Some of my favorite things are wine *giggles*, the beach, the sun, the smell of suntan lotion, going for walks, and my bike! I love my bike! Oh! and I’m learning to ride my son’s hoverboard! Someone please wrap me up in bubble wrap.
What do you wish you had more time for?
I wish I had more time to travel the world. I’d love to visit places like Fiji, Italy, and Greece. I’m not very fond of flying, but I need to get over that if I want to see the world.
What or who inspires you?
My husband and children inspire me. I don’t do what I do just for me; I do it for them, as well. If I am to motivate & encourage them, then I need to lead by example. I need to live my truth for them. My husband and children absolutely mean the world to me.
How would you describe your style?
I think my overall style is casual chic. I usually overdress on special occasions and I’m trying to find a happy medium where I can rock perhaps a graphic T-shirt with some nice jeans, heels, and blinged-out accessories.
What’s one of your proudest mommie moments?
The birth of each of my children has to be my proudest mommie moments (I know it’s more than one moment, but I can’t choose just one). Each one was so special in its own way and seeing their little precious faces for the first time warmed my heart.
What’s your favorite recipe to cook for your family?
I must say that I enjoy making lasagna for my family. I know that I should lay off the bread, but *in my Oprah voice* I LOVE BREAD! Lasagna with a side of French bread is everything!!
What makes your soul happy?
Knowing that my family is healthy & happy makes me very happy. When one of my children is sick, I turn into a hot-mess. Their well-being gives me peace.
Now tell us, what’s in your purse Fly Mommie?
My purse contains car keys, gum, 3 lipsticks, my hearing aids, hand sanitizer, shades, and a small wallet that holds my license & cards.
I have to be honest…I was pretty horrible with my skincare routine in my thirties but I have learned to not neglect myself now thank god! I’m not going down without a fight. LOL. So what beauty brands do you use and what’s your beauty routine?
I wash my face at least twice a day with a Neutrogena Facial Bar. I then apply Oil of Olay all-day moisturizer with sunscreen. I’ve recently been dabbling with Garnier Moisture Rescue Gel Cream. I’m also a little obsessed with castor oil. I never thought of applying it to my face & neck until I read more information about it. I apply the Kym Nylz castor oil to my face and neck a couple of nights a week.
What advice would you give your 18-year-old self?
You are valuable and precious, Bella! Don’t settle. That simple.
After feelings of self-doubt, fear or feeling downright depleted, how do you find your way back to center?
I cry. I also scream, if I must. Once it’s all out, I find that I feel much better. I found that holding things in only do more harm to me. I need to let things go. I also like to write and I find that it has become an outlet of expression for me.
Do you have a mantra?
Life is about moments. Don’t wait for them. Create them.
What are you most passionate about?
I’m very passionate about blogging. Although I’ve been blogging for many years, it was only two years ago that I embarked on my hair blogging journey. Even though the primary focus of my blogging is hair-related content, I find myself making connections between hair and other things in life. I don’t do well with boring. I get bored easily and as a result, I am always onto something new and different.
My youngest son recently expressed to me that he wants to be a vlogger. He is still trying to find his niche, but I enjoy the time that we spend together discussing what direction he wants to take and what some of his ideas are. I like that I get to guide him and give him advice so that he is aware, not only of the opportunities that may present themselves, but also of the dangers of the internet and social media.
Do you belong to or donate your time to any charitable/philanthropic organizations and if so, which ones?
Although it is still a very young concept, I recently collaborated with several other women in support of Puerto Rico in the aftermath of the hurricanes late last year. The concept is called Curls of Love PR. We coordinated a giveaway and we donated money for every person that entered. In the end, between our own contributions and sponsors who donated, we raised $400. It may not seem like a great amount but with $400, we have been able to bless 20 families in Puerto Rico with care packages. I still have family in PR who is without power so the initiative is very dear to my heart. I want this to be the first of similar efforts such as this one (i.e. Curls of Love Syria, Curls of Love Ethiopia, Curls of Love Houston, etc.…). I know that there are many places in other parts of the world, and even here in the U.S., that could really use our help and I want to do what I can to lend a hand.
Why you’re a QUINKENZO FLY MOMMIE…
The moment I stumbled on Bella’s IG, I knew she was a special mommie. Beauty is as Beauty does. So when you are beautiful within that beauty and that light will naturally shine. And in each picture, Bella glows! After connecting with her over our curls, our interaction became so natural that it almost felt we had known each other for years. I was able to learn more about her story and see her love and purpose shine through. THAT along with her gorgeous locks of curls is so incredibly Fly! Look at them! I seriously could stare at her hair for hours! LOL. Her blog and instagram pages offer relatable, easy hair and makeup tips so I find myself on her page daily! Not to mention, she is one of my all time fave Hair Crushes.
One very important reason Bella is so Fly to me though is because she uses her platforms for awareness and acceptance. She has bilateral sensorineural hearing loss and created another instagram platform, @hear_for_the_curls which is a community for curly DHH peeps! How dope is that!?!?!
Bella is an advocate for curly girls everywhere but more importantly for the deaf community. Visit her website and IG pages to see just how dope this mommy is. Website: www.def-curls.com | IG: @def_curls and @hear_for_the_curls
in love + light,
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